Five years ago when I was away in school, my family visited me at school only to deliver bad news as they left: our three dogs had died a week ago. Boy was my heart shuttered! I went back to my room after seeing them off, curled up in bed and cried. My roommate, upon noting that I was sniffling loudly asked what the matter was and could not understand why the death of three pets would break me so.
Well, she’s never had a pet so I wouldn’t expect her to understand. Five years later, we have all healed but we still talk about them with nostalgia. Safe to say I have never loved another pet the way I lived those three.
So, how do you deal with the your pet’s death?
Cry, Child. Cry
Do not let anyone tell you how to feel. If you want to run to the mountains and shout at the top of your lungs, by all means do that. Some people who may not understand the sentimental value of our furry friends may not get you, but you know your pain and you should express it the way that feels right for you. They deserve your time and tears.
Do not Neglect Yourself
It is easy to let yourself go when you are grieving, but that is a bad idea unless you want to be on your way to a Health Canada Consultants in California. Try to eat a healthy meal to keep your energy levels up and your immune system at its best, stay active, hydrate, and get enough sleep. If you have other pets, keep taking great care of them as a way to deal with your pain. It may not seem like it at the moment but things get better with time.
Believe me, you are not the only person going through this loss. There are communities of people who have lost their pets too who are eager to talk to a person that understands. Find them and join them for a constructive talk that could lead to lasting bonds.
Take Your Time
It is easy to want another pet to replace the fallen one, but that is not a very good idea. Take time to heal first before moving to the next furry beauty so that when they come, you will love them for them and not as a comparison to the last one. At this point, studies say you most pet owners feel some remorse. Regardless of what caused your pet’ death, you are likely to feel guilty for something you did or didn’t do when they were alive. That is perfectly okay and you are advised not to try and mask it as it helps you to heal.
Journalize your feelings
May sound silly but it helps to journalize your feelings. “Talk” to your departed pet and pour out your feelings until you are sufficiently ready to let go. Although it doesn’t feel like it now, some day you will talk about them without choking.